A Mans Love-No strings attached

Hey Young World,

Before I dive into this seriously deep subject, I just want to assure you that this conclusion is from in depth experience on both sides of the spectrum. I have literally seen, and now fully understand the direct results of
the absence of a man in a young woman's life...without seeking benefit. I have went from being a self proclaimed "Legendary Playa" to a nurturing father to my daughter, and because of my findings, I have promised myself to be a intricate part of her childhood and development into a strong black woman. Through many relationships with women over the years, all over the country, from entertainment ventures, to black college experiences, to involvement in the streets, I've come to one main conclusion. The women that I had the easiest time manipulating were the ones that I found out later had the least involvement with their fathers, or any positive male figure growing up. When I say this, it doesn't just stop at the cowards who chose not to deal with their seeds at all, because of the conflict with the mom, or the mom not "wanting" them anymore. There is also the dad who financially was there, but not emotionally and timewise. I've found out directly from my eight year old's mouth, that she would take spending time with me ten out of ten times compared to me buying her a toy, or giving her some money for candy. There's also the undependable dad, who is in his daughter's life, pays child support but makes it obvious that she's not a priority. Sometimes this is unintentional, but we as men have to recognize it and correct it immediately. Men, do you know why alot of black women are crazy, insecure, promiscuous, paranoid, etc? Here we go. A mother can only do so much, but what I've found is that the women who's father's fit in the aforementioned categories above never got the love and attention from a positive male at the most crucial times, from childhood through the teenage years. Therefore, the first dude, a boy in school, a pimp, older guy or whatever that showed them "love" in their eyes, they clinged to them. Here's the problem though, those males had alterior motives. It was not selfless love for this girl, it was looking for a benefit from this girl. Some males have a sense for weak, and easily manipulated girls and prey on it. A daddy loves his daughter because that's his daughter, his blood, a part of him, that's all. He wants nothing in return but love back. Those other guys want sex, a potential money maker, props at their school because she's the "baddest", etc. All of these things are benefitting them, and they are using her lack of love from a male to capitalize on it. Now don't get it twisted, this is not every male, there's always the boy that's really in love, but let's be honest, they're few and far in between. Anyway, once the girl clings to this first "love of her life", since that's her perceived love interest, she accepts the good and the bad. Whether it be physical abuse, cheating, verbal abuse or whatever, since this man supposedly loves them, they feel that just comes with the territory. Black men ask why black women love bad boys so much, and say they want a gentlemen, but keep ending up with the same type of dude. Most of the time, it was the first kind of dude they ever dealt with, and subconciously they keep finding the same kind of dude. Can I be honest ladies, that's called INSANITY " Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result." It's not their fault though completely, father's must share the blame. The women I know who had father's who nurtured them, were there every step of the way emotionally, financially, timewise etc., were by far the hardest to manipulate and take advantage of. You know why, they can always say "I don't need you, I got my DADDY!! "Yes he can't be a romantic interest of course, but what that does is make any man that pursues this women work harder to prove his love, because she isn't longing for it. She knows there's a man that has her back regardless, and ultimately she will have a better relationship, because her man had to show and prove. I can guarantee you that an improvement in fatherhood in our community would lead to less single young mothers, prostitutes, scorn women etc. We as men don't want to accept the responsibility, but we have a major role in the development of young black women. Do you realize the affect that more young black male teachers would have on girls that were a positive influence on them, that wasn't trying to sleep with them as soon as they turned eighteen? Think about it. Young black females need a male's love, with no strings attached. It will make them 100% stronger in our society....bottomline.